I’m supposed to be working on a proposal–gratis, as a favor to a former boss, but I just can’t resist temptation of scrolling through and clicking Refresh on Facebook every five minutes–which is turning out to be a disappointing activity, with very little worthwhile turning up.
How convenient then that I suddenly remember I still have a WordPress account and resurrect my resolve to start writing…
As soon as you sense that you are tense, obsessed or conflicted, pay attention, advises psychologist Jennifer Crocker of the Ohio State University. These emotions signal that your motivations may be tangled with self-esteem.
2. Ask yourself “Why?”
As you think about your situation, ask yourself: What am I trying to prove to others? What do I want to gain? What am I afraid to lose? If your answers revolve around either a fear of failing or the success, status and rewards that will arrive once you have accomplished your goal, you are likely chasing self-esteem.
3. Change your outlook.
Instead of focusing on your own success, think about what you might want to create or accomplish, how your efforts might benefit others or what you might learn from the experience.
4. Embrace empathy and vulnerability.
Be honest with others about your fears and challenges and listen openly to their concerns. Leadership coach Shayne Hughes of California-based consultancy Learning as Leadership says such actions allow you to cultivate compassion. Reorienting your goals in a more compassionate way can make you feel more clear-headed and at peace.
We always have to appear so strong to others, so put together. Such that when others point out our shortcomings, we go on the defense and immediately start to plot revenge–how dare they act like gods when they are no more flawed than us?
But what some of…
For all the drudgery that it entails, such as checking pile after pile of homework and computing grades, I love teaching. Teaching brought me out of my shell and gave me an appreciation for the nobility of this profession. I treasure the relationships…
Such gorgeous vintage anatomy of plant cells. Complement with Ernst Haeckel’s stunning 19th-century biological illustrations.
Awww, reminds me so much of my Bio400 days … and the illustrations I drew - painstakingly - in class.